Toppling your stumbling blocks

A friend recently moaned, “I want my old life back. I want to be able to go out to dinner at a restaurant with tablecloths instead of a Playland.” How many of you can relate to that?

stumbling blockThe global economy and the shift in certain industries has become a stumbling block for millions. But perhaps what has tripped us up more than anything is our eyesight: how we see ourselves, others, and how we perceive and judge our experiences.

That was at the heart of the discussion last week for the men and women who attended our first online DQWorkshop. We explored two questions: Who are we? Why are we here?

The answers were rather fascinating. When polled, more than 70% of the attendees indicated that they have souls. In other words, they are bodies. But as the discussion progressed, some of them began to recall incidents in their own lives that revealed that they are more than mortal bodies that possess immortal souls. In fact, those recollections prompted them to consider the possibility that they are more likely immortal souls wearing human bodies—”costumes” in DQW-speak.

One attendee, who previously had indicated that she is a body with a soul, suddenly recalled a terrifying experience she’d recently had in the middle of the night: She was fully awake, hovering over her bed, looking down at her sleeping body next to her husband. What did it mean? She wondered.

I’ve never had an out-of-body experience, but I’ve read numerous accounts from those who have. Many have reported experiencing them during near-death or clinical-death episodes. Others enjoy going into deep meditation and leaving their bodies intentionally—something I’ve never considered.

“Did you notice whether you had a body as you hovered up there?” I asked. “Did you have hands, feet—anything?”

“No. I didn’t have a body,”she responded.

“Where was your awareness?” I asked. “Was it in your body?”


What she was telling us is that her consciousness and her identity as Self was in the part of her that was outside of the body. Her frightening but insightful experience had revealed a couple of things: 1) We are not our bodies and 2) We are invisible when we’re not wearing a body costume.

I could see the Light go on, even though I couldn’t see her or the other attendees. She had dramatically, yet inadvertently, hit the sweet spot of our webinar: Who are we?

Next question: As invisible spirit wearing bodies, why did we choose to be on this planet, in our respective countries, with our respective families and friends at this time in Earth’s evolution? The answer is different for each of us. As we’ve noticed, there is no cookie-cutter life experience.

What I’ve noticed is that our unique purpose as soul can often be found inside the things that evoke the most passion in our physical selves. If, as soul, we have a purpose for being here, do we want to leave the body without fulfilling it? But often, our soul purpose may be waiting to be discovered behind the things that challenge us most: our stumbling blocks. Many of us don’t even know what’s keeping us from moving forward. Is it:

  • Habits?
  • Failure to do what’s required?
  • People on our path with ill intent?
  • And, if we are souls, is it our spiritual history?

Discovering Your Unique Soul PurposeIf you believe everything happens for a reason, you’ll agree that these are some issues to seriously consider. This week, we’ll peel away another layer to get closer to your unique soul purpose for being on this planet, in that body, at this time.

Perhaps your frustration is rooted in the fact that your physical self and Soul Self are not on the same page; each has different goals. If there’s a battle of wills, guess which one wins?

Join us for the next online workshop, Thursday at 8pm CDT, and unmask your stumbling blocks. See what blessings and insights they hold for you. The online workshop is free. Register today.

“See” you there! Explorations always result in plenty of questions. I’m looking forward to another vibrant Q & A session.

Nobody leaves this planet alive, but everyone does.


“In death, only the body dies. Life does not, consciousness does not, reality does not. And the life is never so alive as after death.” Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj, spiritual teacher and philosopher

I received an email from my cousin Burnadette, who was outraged by a TV news story from a network in Great Britain. Watch the video and tell me: Is this an infuriating news story about a two-year-old boy who is addicted to cigarettes—or do you see something more? Let’s look at the facts that were reported here:

  • Two-year-old Ardi Rizal of Jakarta, Indonesia is addicted to cigarettes.
  • His father introduced him to smoking when he was 18 months old.
  • The toddler is a chain smoker who consumes two packs a day.
  • Efforts to stop him have failed.
  • He throws a tantrum and even becomes ill if he doesn’t get his cigarettes.
  • He’s now in government-mandated rehab.

Undeniably, these are the facts, but are they the truth? I know you’re wondering: Aren’t facts the truth? Not always. When we’re standing on Earth’s stage, our vantage point is limited. Often we can’t see beyond the footlights. And rarely can we see what’s going on behind the curtain. But when we climb into the balcony of Earth’s theater, we can see beyond the actors’ peripheral vision. Our vantage point is 360°, broader and often deeper. We can see on all sides of each character and quite frequently, backstage of the entire scene.

Ardi Rizal-infant chain-smokerThis smoking baby drama is fascinating, even on the surface. Anyone who’s watched an infant transition into a toddler expects certain developmental milestones—but smoking? I’ve seen college students, dying (literally) to look more mature, who aren’t as proficient with a cigarette as this baby.

How in the world does an adult teach an 18-month-old to smoke? How do you teach a baby to hold a lit cigarette—let alone twirl it like a baton—without burning himself? How does a two-year-old develop the fine motor skills to light one cigarette with another? How does a toddler learn to deeply inhale and blow out rings of smoke without choking?

Did you see Ardi’s mannerisms? Was I the only one who saw an “old soul” in that young body?

Little Ardi reminded me of a case study I read several years ago. In this case, a toddler in another country stunned his parents by asking where was his wife. They hadn’t a clue what he was talking about. He insisted that he was married, told his parents his name—which wasn’t the name they had given him—his wife’s name and her address, which was in a city that they had never discussed with him. He also gave them details about the home he had shared with his wife, his secret hiding place in that home, and the items he had stashed there.

After the boy had pestered them relentlessly for weeks, the parents decided to prove to him that he had no wife or home elsewhere. After traveling to the nearby town, they were surprised to find a house at the address he’d given them. At that house was a woman the boy instantly recognized and who answered to the name he called her.

He insisted to the frightened woman that he was her husband. She insisted that her husband had died years earlier. Frustrated, the toddler went directly to his hiding place and retrieved the treasures he’d claimed to have stashed there.

What if we really leave Earth alive?

Over the years, I’ve read a number of dramatic (and often traumatic) soul testimonials such as this—including powerful eye-opening stories from those who survived near death experiences. Afterward, they no longer feared death. Most looked forward to it.

In some cultures, elders watch a new baby very carefully, looking deep into the eyes, searching for clues that might reveal which ancestor’s soul is inhabiting this new body. This information provides a different context for scenes such as the one in Jakarta. Plus there’s the accidental discovery of some of my own soul history, which I shared in my metaphysical memoir, EARTH Is the MOTHER of All Drama Queens, that influences my world view.

Most of us believe that every human has a soul, and that our souls live forever. It’s at this juncture that we begin to confuse ourselves: We believe that there is something invisible and immortal inside of us. We believe that it leaves when the body is dead. Or did the body die because it left? Was it, in fact, the Life in the body?

We also believe that we’re not that immortal soul. We are the part that remains here on the planet; we are the carcass.

Since we believe that we are made in God’s image, we’ve concluded that God looks like the mortal part of us rather than the immortal soul. In our confusion, we’ve given God a body, gender and the temperament of a sadistic sociopath whose “behavior” is unpredictable: He grants favor to some of His children, has savagely murdered many, and has promised to torture most throughout all eternity.

No wonder we’re afraid of death.

Believing that we’re going to die—or that we have to do or say something to earn eternal life—doesn’t make it true, and it doesn’t make death fearsome. But if it brings you peace, if it inspires a deeper trust in God, and if it makes sense to you, by all means, believe it.

Nobody has ever come onto Earth’s stage and stayed forever. Have you ever wondered why? Are we immortal souls who have infinite possibilities or mortal bodies with a finite lifespan?

If every soul is leaving his planet alive, but every body will be left behind, which are you?

Only human? What if you’re not?

Resolutions on Calendar

Imagine this: It’s 1/1/11—and you suddenly discover that you aren’t merely mortal, after all: You are an infinite spirit having a temporary physical experience.

After you recover from the epiphany and sit down to write your New Year’s resolutions, will you approach the task from the same perspective—or will you see different, deeper, more expansive opportunities?

What would your resolutions look like if you knew, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that you are going to outlive your physical body?